ON THE ROAD TO HEALING

Your life is a gift

And do not under estimate the importance of those you meet along life’s part.

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In this piece, I intend to write about an extract I got from the writer Elizabeth Gilbert in her book Eat, Pray, Love. A love story about a woman who found peace, certainty and a healthy relationship 

 with God after her divorce. 

 Relationships are very important to the core of who we are. We may exist for different purposes which seems extremely profitable to our importance and differences. But one thing cannot be overlooked and that is through cordial relationships our happiness is possibly determined. The whole story about relationships in this piece would build on our quest for intimacy with the opposite sex and moving on when life turns the door knob on our expectations. As time grows through years and months, we grow to yearn for more from the usual normal affections to a deeper and strategic commitment to one among a thousand folks. One very alarming but admirable reality that inspires my heart is the fact that out of a thousand folks lies just one object of our affection; strange but a very enriching fact.

 In Gilbert's Book Eat, Pray, Love, she encounters a heart wrecking divorce and moves on with a younger man who she gets into a relationship with, but as time hits the bell they separate because of some reasons you would get to know as I progress. After the breakup, she decides to undertake several trips around the world where she meets an older man in Rome who brings some light into her life. During the course of their friendship, the man explains the reason why people come into our lives. She tells him ‘The reason it is so hard to get over this guy is because I seriously thought he was my soul mate’.

Many people come into our lives because of certain reasons we may never understand and when they move away, we become emotionally sick. We all need to understand that some relationships happen because God needs to work on something in us through those people. God may have identified that you need a certain aspect of you exposed to healing and he works in some people into your life to help you healed. Please be sensitive in knowing what God is saying about people who come into your life.

The man Gilbert speaks to says something profound ‘Your problem is you don’t understand what the word ‘soulmate means’. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soulmate forever, Nah too painful. Soulmates they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is you just can’t let it go. Some people come into your life not because you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with them. It could be that you have something they need or they have something you need to go to the next level of your life and work with God. Be glad about great relationships like that and do not mourn longer than is expected when it ends. People may come into your life to shake you up, drive you out of your limitations that could have limited your gifts, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and additions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life and then introduce you to God. This could be the job of the people who came into your life and left. Accept all that has happened and move on. Your life is a gift, do not waste it over spilled milk. Your emotions may get in the way initially but decide to move on. If you clear out all the space in your mind you’re using to obsess over your past relationships, you’ll have a vacuum there, an open spot- a door way; the universe will rush in, God would rush in and fill you with more love than you have ever dreamed of. Stop using your past relationships to block the door.

Regret is the rottenness of yesterday’s stench. Get up from where you are at the moment and move ahead. You may feel painful bolts of sadness, but gather strength and momentum from God and walk upon the circumstances in your life.

Love yourself enough to reach for the best.