"Breast aren't what makes us women"

The inchoate decision to "go flat"  After mascetomies opposes already - existing assumptions about feminism and what it means to recover after breast cancer. A doctor chided a patient who wanted to stay without going under reconstruction,   "How can you walk around like that? You look deformed". But it's that kind of talk suggesting that a reconstructed breast makes a woman more of woman".

I must ask, what then makes a woman, woman. Is it based on the definition of her sexuality or her physicality. Is it the presence or the absence of her breast. Or is it solely based on the peculiarity and individuality of her soul. They forget that "the nerves of the newly reconstructed breast are cut, so they're not receptive to feel or touch. But really, "Feminism goes beyond the presence or absence of breast, but the strength to move on in whatever situation".

Poem: It's you once more

Most times I wonder how it happens, could it be 'A dark sullen being with eyes as sharp as night and voice as cold as droplets of water from a fragmented sky. Its claws going deep like the seas and loose breath presently present. Heavy steps pressing through humanity  searching for fragile customers. Noone  desires such visits but it strapped young  Lucy of her hands and tattooed stamps  over the tenderness of her youth. Aunty  was taken. she left totally In love with my fresh stew, always wanting just more. While in love with the freshness of greenness, she left. I never stopped imagining her withering hands holding his caped dark wear beckoning on hope. It was death standing in the depth of growth. It's you once more.
Minka okim

In Nigeria...

In Nigeria, everyone is happy. Totally happy. Extraordinarily satisfied and eyes fixed up for a brighter tomorrow. Imagine, "we laugh at death". We laugh at the ideology and reality of passing on. Deep!! Few weeks ago, I was in a class were someone made an obscene caricature about death...it got to us but I found myself really laughing. What about the increment in the price of rice? I mean people still buy 5-6 bags with the normalcy in their salaries. Even in the midst of war:we dance, we drink, we poke hands at the government for our situation, that's the least we can do. We are happy people. HAPPY INDEPENDENCE WEEK.

Feminism

I have become a wife, I have become a  bore, I have asked to forfeit my  independent young feminist card, I balance his check book, I trim his hair, nothing bothers me; I have found my match nick. These are the words of Gillian Flynn...My question then is, Does marriage damage a feminist opinion of what "feminism should be"...what does real feminism entail. Is it centered on protesting on same wear for the both sexes, sexual freedom....Does one journey towards feminism end. Does it have to do with walking away from several marriages because it ain't working. 
Minka Okim.

Question of the day

I believe without reasonable doubt that all education does is create room for "specialization". This I believe in isolation of primary, and secondary school education where every child should be encouraged to go. All the crap about education having the extreme power to bring about remarkable change has proved futile to me. "What's education, how far can education change a man, what possible bearing has it created to salvage man from deeming thoughts, why hasn't racism evolved? It doesn't change after 200 years of different men in classrooms. Even with a black man as president, It may have gone worse. The Black man may just be an experiment in space.
Minka okim

Broken words.

B-a-h-t-k-y-u-x      
Broken words, 
A shattered heart
Staring minds
Unfullfillment, pain and hurt
That's absurdity.
When life brings it's baggage,
Thereupon we loose our strength to speak. Some remain damaged and all that is left seems to be broken words.
B-a-h-t-k-y-u-x  
Minka okim

What about social media abuse?

Social media abuse isn't a feminine issue as the men may get around it. it's everyone's problem because so many have been misled by the ongoing struggle to be relevant.  We all wanna sell   ourselves out no matter the pay: As far as the world is gonna scream at our individuality. But really, how often do we all realize that the social media got nothing to do with who a person is, it got nothing to deal with the strength of character a person possess..Do you think that the makeup and clothes our top celebrities put on reflects the serenity they have, you have been misled. Its basic camouflage of the personality of a person. I do not bash the development of social media because am sure its done more good than harm, all I do is examine how far one can go to acquire these material possessions over the major deal. 

We loose ourselves one basic way or the other. We then try to be other people because you become discontented with who you really are. Further, we loose the true juice of living just  for acquiring fame, beauty, class and friends. I have met ladies who are ready to spend their whole doe constantly getting items in vogue. For what reason you may ask: simply to be in vogue, and to display class. No one cares about what's inside the bottle no more, as long as you are popular on the social media that's got to be all for you. 

It's difficult when you find people who have absolutely nothing posing so confidently in front of properties owned by people just to put it up on: instagram, facebook, twitter, and the rest. What about finding out who you really are...not with the makeup, friends, and the world..I Mean discovering yourself with or without people around. Read voraciously, ask questions, travel wide and help those who have no hope of living: then you have lived.

Poem of the day.

I would say goodbye 
When evening smiles
When the night breathes
And when the noon comes after night.   

I would say farewell
When my heart speaks
When my hands fly
And when my eyes yawn
Never has this by chance
Neither shall I.  
              Minka okim

Let's Talk about "why men act the way they act"

I do not intend to bore you with theories about why men act the way they do...so I choose to go straight to the point. society. yea, society makes them act the way they do. There's something about society and it's already paved ways. A person is born and has to be totally structured in line with what's suppose to be. The moment you chose to deviate, you then become an aberrant, an unrepentant deviant. This could likely be the problem of a lot of men if not all: "Boys don't cry, boys don't help out with feminine chores, boys throw out the trash can, boys defend their territory, boys are egoistic and strong, boys got to do this, boys got to do that. In that atmosphere the boy grows up into an already hybridized robot, he is already fixated with what ever society has put up for him. Suddenly, he becomes a grown man who has lost all connection with his emotions, that which makes him sensitive to societal happenings. He hears the drum beat once again "As a man you got to work your ass out that's the way it has always been, you got to hold up to familial responsibilities. Family would say "guy you have 10 siblings to look out for their welfare". The church body would say "brother, there's this project that's been going on for quite sometime, you got to sow in. Your friends would be like "why stick to one woman, as a man you are entitled to cheat, cheat my dear. And if the man is wise enough, he would ask "why should I cheat?. The office world then comes with its own worldly competition. U Got to outsmart others to get up there.

Do not get me wrong, I am not saying that being a man doesn't come with its responsibilities. It absolutely does. But all I say is "so many men loose themselves trying to fit in". He realizes societal impact when he has lost his connection with his kids. It's no longer words but short mumblings. 

I hate poetry

I hate poetry,
It brings out the best in me.
It's deep and full of life
And to write, I tap into hidden worlds. 
It could be the reason I craze for the arts:
Deep, sullen, imaginative, honest, driven and me a pathological lover of words may die without its existence.  
                    Minka okim 

What has religion got to do 3

Few days ago, I attended a Sunday service where an anointed woman of God preached. So, as she preached she continually raised her voice which is supposed to be  common among preachers who have been so taken away by the spirit. I began to hear whispers around me critiquing the fact she raises her voice. Really, I thought "if a male preacher raises his voice it's gonna be okay, it's just gonna be referred to as the structural normality of his manhood". rubbish.  

I think women raising their voices in public places is not a feminist issue but a fem-masc issue. The reason being that it's not just a problem for the men alone but the women. For the women who have problems with other women raising their voices in public places to emphasize what they feel have kept quiet for so long so it's strange when others deviate. Right in the church we still have traditionalists who believe that a woman should be conservative, soft-spoken, tender, reserved, fake, a pleasure to a man and men alone. It's a pity that Mary-Magdelene screamed twice in the scripture "he's alive, Jesus has risen, He's alive. The woman with the Alabaster box of oil isn't properly identified but in the presence of men "she washed the feet of my lord with her tears. If the woman was supposed to be quiet why did she defy  the gathering of men to kiss the feet of my lord. What about the woman jesus met at the well in Samaria, she screamed;  "you all, come and see a man who told me everything about myself". Finally, what about the woman who was to be stoned,  jesus saved her immensely and brought down the the structural normality of the man's power over the woman. Why should the woman be stoned? where was the man in the picture.

No one can change the hands of time. No one can change the wave of the annointing of the Holy Spirit. If the lord is making use of women thanks be to he  Who has defyed what men thought was normal, and he has picked up the stone which the builder rejected. Think on these things.